What makes some people more successful in work and life than others? The most probable answer would be “Intelligent quotient and work ethics” but these two factors alone don’t tell the whole story. One of our major abilities is the way we manage emotions, both our own and those of others. It can play a critical role in determining our happiness and work success. These abilities are collectively called “emotional intelligence”. According to Dr. Travis Bradberry, TalentSmart conducted a research with more than a million people and found out that 90% of top performers have a high level of emotional intelligence. They usually make more money (around $29,000 more per year) than people with a low degree of emotional intelligence.
These days, when the business has become more complex, the value of “emotionally intelligent leaders” has also gained ground. This presents an opportunity, especially for the women, as they are comparatively high on EI. A new analysis of over 24,000 leaders and workers from all over the world shows that the female leaders statistically have an edge in three key areas of emotional intelligence which helps them to stand out. They are more aware of their as well as other’s emotions, they show more empathy and are more adept interpersonally.
Danial Goleman wrote in an article about emergence of women as future organization leaders in “Huffington post” website that by the year 2018, the “Chartered Management Institute” in UK will be the one where the demand for «female» management skills will be far stronger than today. The world of work will be more fluid and virtual and women will move up the chain of command. As Claire Shipman and Katty Kay write in Time, «Their emotional intelligence skills may become even more essential at that time».
Likewise, emotional intelligence is probably the clearest category in which mothers benefit. Being a mother can be quite hard and frustrating. One of the biggest brain boosts for moms is the ability to see the world through someone else’s eyes. As in so many relationships, if you don’t agree with a person, you can just walk away. But you can’t walk away from your child if you want to be a good parent. You’ve got to stretch your mind to satisfy him and understand his point of view, which is definitely not possible without having a strong ability of EI.
We as human beings are innately emotional creatures, so, an inability to manage our emotions can undermine our interactions at every turn. Emotional intelligence proves a far stronger predictor of success and happiness in work, love and life. So EI can help women become new leaders for the future. And maybe men can learn something new from women for a change.
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By Marina Musatova, Psy.D.
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